Word of the Week: Confidence

Word of the Week: CONFIDENCE
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Our experiences from childhood form our beliefs and either inhibit us or give us strength. As young adults and through adulthood we reinforce these beliefs and fall into comfortable little niches. Sometimes we avoid things because we know it makes us uncomfortable; sometimes we do things just because we think others would want us to.

Take a long, hard look at yourself. Trust in yourself. All of us have the ability to do anything we wish. The problem is that many don’t even try, or once they experience failure – they stop trying. You have to believe in yourself and understand that failure is not the end – it’s just a place to stop, regroup, and try something different.

Tips to build your own confidence:

Voice your opinion
Articulate your speech;
no slang, use proper pronunciation.  Believe in what you are saying.  If you are conveying a message while you are all hunched over and looking all around the room, you are not conveying confidence, but rather the opposite.  Others will not believe in you if you fail to believe in yourself.
Write clearly.  Clean and clear; don’t write like a text message — unless it is a text message.
Be a giver.  Give kudos when you can; express gratitude often; compliment someone.  By being a giver you are better able to receive.
Learn to take a compliment. Don’t play it off – smile and say “thank you”.
Believe in yourself and others.  Don’t dumb yourself down and don’t downplay your accomplishments.  Learn to take and give a compliment:  say thank you and experience that positive gift of energy that you have been given.
Count your blessings!  Be grateful for what you have, be content with the person you are.  This doesn’t imply that you should give carte-blanche to negative qualities or negative energy that you might be displaying, i.e., jealousy, self-centeredness, conceit, hatred; it means you should acknowledge who you are, your feelings, your thoughts, your appearance, and be grateful that you understand who you are while knowing what you need to work on.
Carry yourself well.  Dress nicely and appropriately.  (Looking good = Feeling good.)  Hold your head up; stand and sit straight.  Speak clearly and with purpose; look people in the eye when addressing them.   Always remember that beauty is not defined through outward appearance; how one acts and conducts their self determines beauty.
Walk with purpose. Don’t doddle or slouch.  Head up, eyes forward, good pace.
Ask. If want something, don’t be afraid to ask for it.
Know where you’re going.  If you don’t know where you’re headed, no one else will.
Push forward.  Failure doesn’t mean the end.  It means try again or try something else.
Remain positive.  When something negative happens, try to find the positive in it.

Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think that you can, or that you can’t, you are usually right.”  It took a long time to erase that confidence that you came into the world with, but it is not completely gone!  Many years have passed that have created the unsure, fearful, or inhibited you.  The power is within you to change.  Don’t try to do everything all at once; work on one thing at a time.  Believe in yourself; Embrace yourself; Empower yourself!

“Trust your own instinct. Your mistakes might as well be your own,
instead of someone else’s.”
~ Billy Wilder

*This post is an except of the Chapter on Confidence from the book “BOOYAH! SPIRIT”

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16 thoughts on “Word of the Week: Confidence

  1. bluevioletNo Gravatar

    This is a weak spot for me, and I absolutely deflect compliments all the time.

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    SheilaNo Gravatar Reply:

    @blueviolet,
    Okay now, put that deflective shield down and let all that positive energy sink right in there. It’s a great feeling, like sunshine on your skin… to accept a compliment. :) You rock! (ooo! there’s one now!)

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  2. JenNo Gravatar

    Love this Sheila! You portray confidence in what you do and it shows! I especially love
    *ASK
    *WALK WITH PURPOSE
    Those two I will practice today……they seem to be the most challenging (especially the asking) for me!

    Hope you are having a beautiful week:)
    Love,
    Jen

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    SheilaNo Gravatar Reply:

    @Jen,
    Hi! Thanks for coming by! I think *Ask* is one of the hardest for women to do. We think pretty much have everything covered, and it’s hard sometimes to just *ask*.

    Hope you have a beautiful week too! Books going out tomorrow! Yay!

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  3. NezzyNo Gravatar

    I can dish out a compliment like a crazy woman but I have a problem acceptin’ them. I always try to brush ‘em off for some silly reason.

    God bless ya and have a glorious day sweetie!!! :o)

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    SheilaNo Gravatar Reply:

    @Nezzy,
    Thanks and you too! And I can see by your blog you are such a gracious and generous compliment-giver! You should just let the compliment come… and remain silent… enjoy it and before you know it, it’s too late to brush it off… it’s yours!!!

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  4. BetsyNo Gravatar

    I love your chapter on confidence!! My favorites are:
    Remain Positive and Count Your Blessings!
    All wonderful ideas to keep ourselves happy, too!

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    SheilaNo Gravatar Reply:

    @Betsy,
    And the sun finally came out today, after a week of rain! WoooHooo! A most excellent day! :o) Thanks Betsy! Books going out tomorrow! Yay!

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  5. NezzyNo Gravatar

    Hey sweetie, thanks so much for poppin’ with your sweet comment and compliment! I hope ya’ll drop in often.

    God bless ya and have a fantastic day!!! :o)

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  6. Unknown MamiNo Gravatar

    I took an Alexander Technique class and it did wonders for my confidence because it made me realize that I was not taking up all the space that I am entitled to. I was always trying to shrink and that was something that I was doing without being aware of it.

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    SheilaNo Gravatar Reply:

    @Unknown Mami,
    I love how you put that… taking up all the space you were entitled too. That statement in and of itself is a great thought!

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  7. Jannie FunsterNo Gravatar

    This is really good, Sheila (Jannie says in a wrinkled tee and ball cap, so not exactly looking my BEST here at the library.) :)

    I like the ideas of being a giver, to receive. And counting my blessings, of which I do have MANY!

    xoxo

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  8. DaisyDeadheadNo Gravatar

    Well, as you know, I have confidence to TALK blah blah blah but do you know I have still not listened to myself on the radio? Afraid if I hear myself, won’t be able to continue.

    Okay, I just admitted it to YOU, but not on FACEBOOK! LOL :P

    Need more “self love” than simply self confidence, I think… or just more “I don’t care what people think of me”–I think men get lots of more of that elusive attribute than women do! JUST A HUNCH! ;)

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    SheilaNo Gravatar Reply:

    @DaisyDeadhead,
    I agree, it’s probably something that women struggle with more. I am actually shocked that you feel you need confidence considering I see you as a mega-strong woman! And your radio voice is completely wonderful. Completely!

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    DaisyDeadheadNo Gravatar Reply:

    @Sheila, THANK YOU! I am working on it, and coming to your nice blog is a good step in that direction. Teach it, preach it…

    I met this cool Swami over the weekend, went to talk to him, he is like, catch me on Facebook! :D Even the Swamis are on Facebook now.

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    SheilaNo Gravatar Reply:

    @DaisyDeadhead,
    I think that might be the coolest thing I’ve heard in a lonnnnnnnng time! A swami on FB. Huh!

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